Exclusive 1:1 support for high achievers in business, media and influential families facing the pressures of success and visibility.
Your happiness shouldn't have to be the price of your success.
You've got the career, the recognition and a life full of possibilities, but keeping it all running is taking more of you than you're willing to give. Now you want the freedom to enjoy it, the presence to be fully there for it and the fulfilment all that success was meant to bring.
Shall we make your life as fulfilling as it is successful?
Your life's on track, but your own success is overtaking you.
It's taken you far, opened doors and given you plenty to be grateful for.
But the demands of keeping it all going are taking time and energy away from the very people you do all this for.
And you're done accepting that success has to take this much of you.
You want to enjoy what you've built without feeling permanently stretched. Without the short fuse that comes out at home, the responsibility that somehow becomes yours to deal with, or a calendar so full of other people's priorities there's barely room for your own.
A HAPPILY SUCCESSFUL LIFE
A HAPPILY SUCCESSFUL LIFE
You can keep your standards high without paying for them with your own wellbeing.
Rest shouldn't have to wait until you've hit your limit. Neither should an afternoon off turn into another working day, or your family have to settle for whatever's left of you. And just because you're capable of carrying so much doesn't mean it all has to be yours to carry.
I'll be right beside you when you're ready for things to work differently.
We'll create more room for the life you want to live. More peace of mind, more freedom to be fully present, and the possibility of taking a Wednesday afternoon off simply because you feel like it. So you can take pride in what you've achieved and actually enjoy living the life that comes with it.
A lighter, more fulfilling life doesn't have to wait for another achievement or another day of keeping it all running.
“I went from feeling desperate, sad, angry, constantly rushed and lost to living a calmer, more balanced and positive life, where I can finally slow down. And I’m still incredibly grateful to Toekie for that.
Toekie challenged me when I needed it. She was deeply empathetic, but above all, highly skilled and kind. She created a safe space where, for the first time in my life, I felt comfortable being completely open and allowing myself to experience my emotions.
Toekie is wonderfully down-to-earth, has both feet firmly on the ground and knows exactly what she’s talking about. That made it easy for me to open up, without ever feeling that the process was too spiritual or uncomfortable. I know it wouldn’t have worked for me otherwise.
I’m grateful every day that our paths crossed and that we got to walk part of the way together. The books, techniques and little pieces of wisdom she shared still help me every single day to stay relaxed, positive and connected to myself and the people around me.
- Eric
I’M TOEKIE
PSYCHOLOGIST & FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS EXPERT
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For almost twenty years, I've been the psychologist and trusted confidante people turn to when success starts demanding more than they're willing to carry.
I work with business leaders operating at the highest levels, professionals in the public eye and individuals from influential families. People who've achieved a great deal, yet find themselves wondering why it hasn't brought the fulfilment they expected.
I understand the world you move in. The weight of a family name, the demands of a public role, the dynamics within your relationships, the importance of reputation and privacy, and the expectations that follow you home. You can bring all of it into the room with me, exactly as it is.
With over fifteen years of experience, I'm quick to see what's really going on, even when you haven't quite found the words for it yourself. The roles you've slipped into, the patterns shaping your relationships and the expectations you've become so used to carrying.
I bring a little lightness to even the difficult conversations, sometimes with a touch of humour, and always with honesty, care and absolute discretion.
We get to the root of things, with the depth to understand what's really happening, the warmth to feel safe enough to explore it, and the sharpness to actually do something about it.
I'll be right beside you as we untangle what's been weighing on you and make room for more of the life you want to be present for.
THE TRANSFORMATION JOURNEY EXCLUSIVE
You've spent long enough being the person who can handle everything. Here, you have someone firmly in your corner.
Eight months of personal support through everything life puts on your plate. From the business and your relationships to family dynamics and life in the public eye. Sessions where we get straight to the heart of things, with a direct line to me in between.
“Her warm and supportive guidance has helped me reconnect with myself, build deeper connections with others and feel confident showing who I really am.
Toekie has an incredible ability to get straight to the heart of things, drawing on her knowledge, expertise and professionalism. All in a safe space to do so. Working with her has given me so much: better self-care, greater self-awareness, gratitude, stronger connections with myself and the people around me, and a deeper understanding of my own emotions. I’ve learned to make choices that feel right for me, even when they’re unpopular, and to trust myself and the process.
Toekie is exceptionally good at what she does. Her intuition is remarkable, and she seems to know exactly what you need at any given moment.”
- Jennifer
PSYCHOLOGIST & FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS EXPERT
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What my clients say
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Toekie is the first and only psychologist who has truly touched me
“She’s the best when you’re ready to face the things within yourself that need attention. With Toekie, you get to work and always get to the heart of the matter. The experience was genuinely transformative for me. I’m so grateful to Toekie, and to myself, for making the decision to fully commit to it.” — Maartje Joosten
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You were there, you heard me and took me by the hand.
“You were there for me, giving me the space to move at my own pace. I’m so grateful to feel in control again, to have found my feet and to be able to take charge of where my life is going in this crazy world.” — Eveline van den Hengel
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With Toekie, you can be who you are.
“She has so much knowledge and works so professionally, but what really stands out is her incredible intuition. She knows exactly how to get to the heart of things, every single time.” — Maud
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