“I look back on my time with Toekie with a little sadness, or perhaps it's more like homesickness. Wow, what a journey.

‘It’ works. Toekie has a way of reaching your subconscious, on a subconscious level and often in ways I can't quite explain, but oh, how much it has given me.

I found the energy and confidence to start a new job, one that fits my needs and what I want from life. A place where I can thrive, make mistakes and know that either way, I'll be okay.

I'm so grateful our paths crossed. I'll always cherish the time we spent working together. It gave me the fresh start I needed.” — Yuki

“Before I came to Toekie, I was literally stuck. I wasn't particularly unhappy, but I was struggling more and more to get things done. I was more emotional than usual and had so much less energy. It almost felt like apathy. I couldn't pinpoint what was causing it. Was it serious enough to see a therapist?

After just one session with Toekie, I never doubted that decision again. Toekie has helped me enormously in finding my way forward. I was always the one deciding what we worked on and where our sessions would go, but Toekie brought so much more than a listening ear and understanding. She knew which questions to ask and gave me valuable insights, exercises and practical tools that gradually helped me work through these issues.

It takes energy to do this kind of work, but with Toekie, I felt calm and confident throughout the process.

This experience has made my life so much easier.”

— Juliette

“Before coming to Toekie, I often felt so alone. Always putting on a brave face. Physically, but especially emotionally. Being strong. But I felt vulnerable and unseen. While other people saw me as strong, powerful and positive.

Toekie immediately asked the right questions, which made me feel that she would understand me. And throughout our time working together, she proved me right.

She gently took me by the hand and created a safe space where I could reconnect with the little girl I once was. Family constellations helped me understand why I feel the things I feel.

Little by little, I started to see how I could move forward, always at my own pace. And above all, I always felt heard. Her honest, direct approach was exactly what I needed, because I'm someone who prefers people to be straightforward with me.

Now I feel so much more balanced. Life still throws challenges my way, and I've never been someone who's had an easy road. But I feel better equipped to deal with whatever comes.

Toekie's beautiful metaphors still help me regularly. And if I had to name the most important thing I've learned from her, it would be how to listen to myself and truly reconnect with who I am, from the little girl I used to be to the woman I've become.

Working with Toekie has been such a beautiful gift to myself.”

— Astrid

“I thought I'd already worked through so much of my past and finally had everything, including myself, under control. Surely all I needed to do was put it behind me and focus on the future? But sadness, fear and a nagging feeling I couldn't explain kept taking me by surprise.

I wanted to feel more connected to myself and learn to accept who I am. I've learned (and am still learning!) to embrace both of my parents and allow them back into my life (carefully), accepting everything that is there, but also everything that isn't. I'm finding that I can accept them more and more, and that feels like such a relief.

I hadn't even realised I was living in survival mode. Now I'm increasingly able to recognise when that happens and respond to it with love.

You knew when to give me a gentle nudge, helping me find the courage to take another step.

You encouraged me to think about where I wanted to go and what I wanted to achieve, and that gave me something solid to hold on to.

Most of all, I felt completely welcome, safe and seen. You really saw me for who I was, and that gave me the confidence to keep moving forward.

You truly are a wonderful gift!”

— Rosalie

“What I find so special is how you can put your finger on exactly the right sore spot. Even when I'm struggling to put my feelings into words, you somehow manage to piece everything together. You help me understand what's really happening, how I'm feeling and how the people around me might be feeling too.

Over the past few years, you've helped me see that I can simply be myself. And by allowing myself to do that, I've been able to grow in the way I see myself and in my relationships with others.

Without pushing, forcing things or putting pressure on myself or anyone else, I've made some enormous progress in a surprisingly short time, all at my own pace.

I'm becoming more and more comfortable with who I am, including the parts of myself that aren't always at their best.”

— Irene

“When I started working with Toekie, I wanted to find a loving way to help both myself and my children navigate the next chapter of our lives. As my children were growing into adults, we were experiencing more and more misunderstandings. I wanted things to change, while being mindful of the impact on them. 

The work was intense. There were moments of struggle, playfulness, emotional upheaval and pain (which, according to Toekie, is sometimes part of the process ;-)). It brought a lot to the surface.

One of the most valuable things I learned was how to set boundaries and actually stick to them. Boundaries that reflect what matters to me and what feels right for me.

I had some difficult decisions to make, and with Toekie's support, I found the strength to stand by them. That has brought me so much more self-love, clarity, confidence and stability.

Toekie has lovingly guided me (and us) into the next stage of life. She does this with a warm heart, expertise, passion and dedication.

Working with Toekie is the most beautiful gift I could have given myself, and I'm so glad I did.”